[200q20v] H+R/Bilstein Upgrade Revisited - milder options?

[Forhan, Thomas]

Last month there was a nice thread on upgrades, including suspension, pretty
much directed at maximization. 

My 200 20V Avant is the primary family car, and I don't want to go all out,
but at 
125000 miles the need for new struts, and maybe springs, seems obvious on
the streets of Washington DC. 

So what would be a good intermediate upgrade? I don't want to lower the car
a lot, though a little would be ok, and I don't want to hear complaints
about a harsh ride, though stiffer would be just fine. Eibachs instead of
H+R? Bilstein HD instead of Sport? 

What do you think? Anyone done something similar?

Thanks

Tom F.