ABS Killed by Owner

[Kerry Leeds]

OK, ABS killed by stupid mistake. Or series of stupid mistakes:
1. Left lights on all day.
2. Connected jumper cables w/polarity reversed. (Need I note this was
amazinly dumb but unintentional?)
3. Allowed electricity to flow in ways God never intended for several
minutes.
4. Once I gave thanks for failing to cause an explosion, I correctly
connected cables & started car.
5. "ABS switched off" warning light remains lit, not responding to ABS
switch.

Is it worth checking the relay? If so, where is the durn auxilary relay
panel? Bentley seems to indicate that it's on the driver's side roughly
opposite the place where the ECU resides on the passenger's side. Do relays
give visual information the way fuses do? Or do I replace it and hope for
the best?
OR . . . should I not pass Go, not collect $200, and proceed directly to a
new ABS control unit?

TIA

Still Chastising & Kicking Myself,
Kerry