Suspension bushings: help needed

[jrich@internet.kronos.com]

A tale of woe from an incompetent home mechanic:

I got the bright idea to change my own suspension (control arm and anti-sway bar) bushings.  I removed the control arm and felt pretty proud of myself.  Removing the bushings was another story.  I finally got them out, but only with the help of a propane torch to heat the control arm.  Now I can't get the new bushings fully in, at least not without that propane torch, which would make the new bushings fairly pointless.

What special tool am I lacking that I need to own?  I'm trying to do this with a bench vise.  I lubricated the new bushings with soapy water.  I'm able to apply enough pressure to bend the vise's handle.

Jack Rich